Dear Birth Mother,

Dear Birthmother,

We are writing this with both great hope, and deep gratitude that you are willing to consider us as parents to your child. We also hope you know that we appreciate and acknowledge what a tremendous decision this is for you to make. Should you choose us as adoptive parents, please know that we will love your baby with our whole hearts, with the same care and adoration as if he/she was born to us. We will raise your baby in a loving, joyful, and affectionate home.

While we grew up on opposite sides of the country, Ben in California and Rebecca in New Jersey, we both were raised in wonderful, loving homes where our parents supported our dreams and desires. Both our parents have been happily married for over 40 years, and have been incredible role models to us. We can't imagine having better parents. When we met each other, one of the first things that drew us to one another was our deep connection to our families, and our desire to have as happy a marriage as our parents have, and raise a family.

We met through a mutual friend in December of 2004 in New York City. It was immediately clear that we valued the same things: friendship, love of family, education, compassion and loyalty. We respect and love each other deeply. We also both love to laugh and have fun, which is true for both of our families. We dated for two and half years before getting married in June of 2007.

We started trying to have a family immediately after getting married. After years of unsuccessful fertility treatments, it became clear to us that having a biological child was not a possibility. Although it was painful to go through the emotional journey of trying to conceive a child biologically, we always knew we wanted to adopt children. Rebecca's sister is adopted from Korea, and both of us have always felt drawn to adopting children. We feel certain that building a family through adoption is exactly what we are meant to do.

Both of us love children, and take care of children in our professions. Ben is a surgeon and he treats both adults and children, and Rebecca teaches 4th grade in Brooklyn. Ben is a loving, supportive husband and a dedicated, caring doctor. Rebecca is a kind and compassionate wife and teacher. Both of us love our jobs, but we make sure our lives are also well-balanced. Most nights after work, we cook dinner together and talk about our days. We both make time to exercise, sometimes taking a run, playing frisbee, or going to a yoga class. On the weekends, we love going to museums, concerts, movies, and Broadway plays and musicals, often with our close friends who live nearby.

After getting married, we moved to a beautiful, tree-lined street in Brooklyn, where we have many wonderful neighbors and close friends. Together with Rebecca's parents, we live in a 4-story brick house with a lovely backyard, which gives us plenty of space for a family. We love our neighborhood in Brooklyn. We live just a few blocks from Prospect Park. It has running paths, outdoor concerts during the summer, a farmer's market every Saturday and an incredible zoo. We actually live around the corner from one of the biggest playgrounds in Brooklyn. We love walking by and seeing families and children of all different backgrounds playing together. One of the best things about Brooklyn is that we feel we are part of a real neighborhood, and yet we can take a quick subway ride into Manhattan and enjoy everything a diverse, culturally rich city has to offer.

We feel very blessed to be so close to our whole families. Ben's parents, brother and family live in Los Angeles, but we talk on the phone a few times a week, and visit regularly, in New York, California, and elsewhere on family vacations. Ben's brother has two sons, Felix and Isaac, who love nothing more than playing and running around with their "Uncle Ben!" Rebecca's parents split their time between Brooklyn and Northern Michigan, and are actually planning to move into the separate garden floor apartment of the townhouse. Everyone is eagerly awaiting the arrival of a new child for whom they will cherish and love dearly.

Rebecca's sister lives nearby in Brooklyn, and is delighted to be an Aunt to our child. Ben's aunt, uncle, and cousins also live in Manhattan, and we see them regularly for meals and activities. One of our favorite things to do is go to Aunt Linda's apartment for her delicious home-cooked meals. One of our favorite yearly traditions is going to Northern Michigan, where Rebecca's large extended family gathers each year to spend time together at the family cottage on the lake where we laugh, play lots of games, and eat big meals together on the screened-in-porch!

We both consider ourselves to be very spiritual, loving people with a strong moral background. Ben was raised Jewish and Rebecca studied Judaism before converting to Reform Judaism. We love the traditions and music of Judaism and on Friday nights, we usually go to synagogue where Rebecca sings with the folk band that helps lead the service.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read our letter. We can think of no greater gift or privilege than to become parents, and should you consider us, we will do everything in our power to give your child the best life possible. If you would like to meet us or receive more information about us, please contact our attorney, Timothy Blied of the law offices of Schmiesing, Blied, Stoddart, and Mackey at 1-800-678-6811.

With Love,
Rebecca and Ben

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